Motherhood and marriage at midlife – navigating the miserable and the marvelous – will be the subjects of my bi-weekly essays over at Your Tango’s new Love, Mom blog. My first piece looks at how fervently my husband yearned for fatherhood, while I was initially reluctant about motherhood. It begins like this:
You can read the rest here. I’ll be there every other Monday. Hope you’ll check in from time to time.
“Other women had it. Even my husband had it: the desire to spawn. It's true: my husband wanted kids more than I did. Wanted them in the way it seemed other (normal?) women did, with a longing, a yearning, a confidence that parenthood was vital to adult life. Me? I figured we'd have a pretty good life either with children or without.
Then, I experienced three years of infertility, which made getting pregnant its own goal. I wanted it to work, which of course isn't the same as wanting to be a mother.
Still, a husband's heart's desire is something strong.”